#389: DATING DECODED: He Says He's NOT READY for a Relationship (Dating Advice for Women)

breakup BOOST Advice to Get Over Your Ex & More

Trina Leckie

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🗓️ 24 July 2025

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

It's once again time to KEEP IT REAL. When a man says he’s "not ready for a relationship," what does he really mean? In this episode, I break down the truth behind this all-too-common phrase, why women keep holding onto it as though it signifies "hope" ... and what’s actually going on beneath the surface.

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0:00.0	You're listening to Breakup Boost, honest and logical advice.
0:04.5	With the sprinkle of bluntness, Trina keeps it real.
0:08.0	She'll help you navigate the craziness of the modern dating world.
0:11.0	Stop obsessing over your ex and finally close the door on half-ass relationships.
0:15.4	This girl's got your back.
0:16.8	Here's Trina.
0:19.8	He said he's not ready for a relationship.
0:23.1	Oh no, sweetie.
0:24.6	Like, maybe he'll come around.
0:26.6	I'm sure just, you know, give him more time.
0:29.8	Keep texting him nonstop.
0:32.0	Keep chasing him and, you know, keep proving yourself.
0:36.1	Just kidding.
0:37.7	I'm kind of worried to know if anyone thought that I was being serious.
0:42.5	Um, because no, that would be completely leading you down a path of total delusion and I would be doing you a major disservice.
0:50.4	If you keep telling yourself that a guy just isn't ready for a relationship and that's the reason he won't commit to you, or worse, you believe him when he tells you that?
1:01.3	Sorry, no, actually not sorry. It's time for another reality check. Because here's the thing, a guy saying that he's not ready is probably the most overused cop-out.
1:14.0	He says that because he wants to save face and also because he wants to avoid the, you know,
1:19.6	awkwardness of flat out rejecting you. This approach is just so much softer, you know,
1:26.6	and it's a lot more vague, which then allows you to
1:30.7	easily ignore the reality of the situation as a way to comfort yourself. And depending on how
1:37.7	you respond to this, it may also be a way for him to keep you around on his terms, right?
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