385: Helping Withdrawers Identify and Express Longing

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

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Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 28 April 2023

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

Can we ever get out of this place, this cycle? The answer is a resounding yes! Stage 1 in EFT works on de-escalating the negative cycle and creating more safety between partners. When there is safety to take the risk of expressing your longing that lives underneath the protection to your partner, lies the solution to creating a more secure relationship. In this episode Laurie and George, illustrate for listeners the sexual withdrawer's longings and how they can share them to their love. You'll want to listen to this episode for these tips: how to go into the feeling, the signals that your body gives to expose your fear, and how to ASK your partner for help. Sexual withdrawers may need: understanding, acceptance and reassurance. George and Laurie encourage us to be brave in these dark places because we are not supposed to be here alone! Make sure to sign up for our online couples retreat for all things Great Sex and Great Love happening on September 8th. And check out our sponsors: ZocDoc - Download this tremendous app to help you find the medical help you need, when you need it. No more having to figure out how to login to your insurance website to find a doctor or medical specialist. ZocDoc puts that all right at your fingertips! Use the code 'foreplay' so they know we sent you! Uberlube - Laurie's long time favorite lubricant! She's been recommending Uberlube to her clients for years! Use the code 'foreplay' to get your discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The following content is not suitable for children.
0:02.4	Okay, George, last week we did some work with the sexual pursuer and helping them articulate
0:10.2	their longing, which is so important to the eventual healing of the negative cycle.
0:16.7	And today I want to talk with you about the withdrawal sexual needs and what kind of lies beneath
0:21.8	this, what are their longings so that we can help heal the cycle from the withdrawal side as well.
0:28.2	Bring it on!
0:31.6	Welcome to Sports Play Sex Therapy. I'm Dr. Laurie Watts and you're Sex Therapist.
0:36.0	But I'm George Valle, you're Couples Therapist.
0:38.6	We are here to talk about sex.
0:40.6	Our mission is to help couples talk about sex in ways that incorporate their body, their mind,
0:47.5	and their hearts.
0:48.6	And we have a little bit of fun doing it, right G?
0:51.2	Listen and let's change some relationships.
0:54.4	I also want to just mention we are doing a couples retreat on September 8th.
0:59.6	So please keep that in mind in your schedule for your fall schedule.
1:03.8	We want to give you a heads up. We're only doing one this year because our training schedule is
1:08.4	getting crazy. But we would love to invite you to our couples retreat on September 8th.
1:13.5	It's by Zoom and you can find it on our website or playsextherapy.com.
1:18.6	Nice and we just completed training therapists two days right on sex.
1:23.2	How do a hundred therapists, how much fun was that, Laurie?
1:26.0	To just kind of again get all these questions.
1:28.7	We don't have all the answers, but we're just getting that excitement.
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