386: Blocks to Sexual Connection

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.5 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 5 May 2023

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

"Mistrust is part of the change process." We long for things to change, for the negative cycle to shift and for us to achieve closeness and connection but it is SO normal for blocks to occur during this time. Join Laurie and George in this episode learning about blocks to sexual connection, common blocks for pursuers and withdrawers and tools to use when a block occurs. Our hosts encourage us to predict the blocks and create a plan for repair, honor the function of the protection and get more comfortable in exploring the fear underneath. A key takeaway is that we become myopic during the cycle. Success in closeness is illustrated by predicting your partner's block, and being flexible to their underlying need. Check out our Sponsors: Uberlube - Laurie's long time favorite lubricant! She's been recommending Uberlube to her clients for years! Use the code 'foreplay' to get your discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The following content is not suitable for children.
0:02.6	George, there are so many typical blocks of pursuism with drawers when it comes to sexual connection.
0:10.4	And I'm just thinking if we can talk about them, people won't feel so alone out there,
0:15.5	they'll recognize themselves, and maybe we can show them the way out of those blocks.
0:20.6	I love it, Laurie. Let's do it.
0:24.9	Welcome to 4Play Sex Therapy. I'm Dr. Laurie Watts and you're Sex Therapist.
0:29.5	I'm George Valor, your couple's therapist.
0:32.0	We are here to talk about sex.
0:34.0	Our mission is to help couples talk about sex in ways that incorporate their body, their mind,
0:40.8	and their hearts.
0:42.0	And we have a little bit of fun doing it, right, G?
0:44.5	Listen, and let's change some relationships.
0:48.0	This is such an important thing to be ready for these blocks, right? They're not so scary when
0:53.4	you're ready for them. And that's what change looks like. When you try to create change,
0:57.5	you're going to run up against mistrust, right? You're going to run up against people,
1:01.2	not sure what they're supposed to do. And the time it always sucks, right? You get one person
1:05.5	with a new move, and the other person's not sure what to do with it and bolt it and then get pulled
1:10.0	right back into the negative cycle. So really preparing our listeners like, wait a second,
1:15.2	have a plan for these blocks before they happen. Then you have a chance when they come for you.
1:20.4	No wonder why most of the time these blocks really derail the whole progress that their couples
1:25.2	are making. Yeah, exactly. I think that what we expect is things to go well. And so we don't plan
1:34.0	for what happens when we hit a typical block, what are our moves? What can we do different
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