You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, Relationship Coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, I'm going to be sharing with you something that I've observed in people with anxious attachment

as they go through the process of becoming more aware of their attachment behaviors

and how those things have affected their relationships and ultimately moving to healing

some of those patterns and behaviors and shifting to a more secure

attachment. So you may have seen this episode as titled the three stages of healing anxious

attachment. And those three stages are very much my observation, right? This is not something

you're going to find in a textbook or read in a book unless I write it.

It's very much from my observation.

So don't take it as some sort of doctrinal gospel.

It's really just something that I wanted to share with you because I think it's really important.

And by looking at these three stages, which I think we could also

describe as three different mindsets around anxious attachment, I suspect you might notice

aspects of yourself in some of them. And you might then be able to use that to understand

why your mindset about your anxious attachment,

your partner's attachment, and your relationship to the extent you're in one right now

or a previous relationship, the way that you relate to these things and your mindset has a

huge impact on your ability to meaningfully shift those patterns. And if you're not approaching it in a

mindset that is conducive to, you know, quote unquote healing, then that might be one of the reasons

why you're stuck. So I'm hoping that in sharing these three stages or three different mindsets

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