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I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. Today's episode is about

anxious attachment and inconsistency. So, So unpacking why inconsistency is so

triggering and challenging for anxiously attached people in relationships and even the perception

of inconsistency. So any sort of changes in the temperature of the relationship, why that is such a struggle

for anxiously attached people, what that can bring up, what the go-to responses tend to be

frantically attached people when they experience that in their relationships.

And some reframes for you, if that's something that you struggle with, so that you can feel a little bit more supported, a little bit more resourced in your system,

and a little less panicky and out of control when you do perceive any ebbs and flows in the relationship

so that you can feel sort of more grounded and secure within yourself and not so at the mercy

of something outside of you in determining your emotional state and your sense of okayness,

as I like to say. Before we dive into all of that, a couple of quick announcements. You probably have

heard me speaking about Healing Anxious Attachment,

my signature program, and I'm very excited to say that it is opening for enrollment in five

days' time. There are over 1,600 people on the wait list currently, which is absolutely

nuts, amazing. Super exciting. And I'm so looking forward to welcoming

all of those new people in in a few days' time. Rather than telling you all of the

amazing things about the course, I thought that instead I would just share some testimonials

from past students because I think that those are a real testament to the power of the program

and, you know, speak volumes more than I could by just rattling off things like, you know,

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