You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast, episode 37, Shame 2.0.

Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn.

This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. I'm your

host, Sarah Brewer. Hey, everyone, welcome to the podcast episode this week. I'm so glad you're here.

By the time this podcast is released, it will be the last week of the month, which means that

the program, Overcome Pornography for Good, is open for October. So if you have been waiting to

join Overcome Pornography for Good, want you to know that now is your chance. Now you can come in

and get in. If you're on the wait list,

you should have gotten an email. You can just go to sarahbrew.com forward slash work with me to sign up

and we can get going on the program. Today I want to dive into shame again. This is a big thing that

we talk about often on the program.

But it's been a while since we dedicated a podcast episode to it.

And why this is so important for me to talk about so often is because shame, when you're

stuck in shame, you just can't do the work to get out of pornography.

When you're stuck in shame, you can't quit pornography.

How shame works is I have

clients who come to me and say, I'm not motivated, I'm struggling, I can't get myself to do any of

the work, I can't process urges, I'm just struggling so much, I just like I could barely get

myself to this call. I just can't do it. And when they say this to me,

I usually ask them, well, what are your main emotions when you think about quitting pornography?

They'll say something like frustration. I'm just not good enough. I'm so disappointed. And this

question is so revealing and such a great question to give you an idea of

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