If I'm at a play party and most of the people there are white and have a much smaller

body type than I do and I feel like I am kind of being ignored.

You know, my partner showing me affection actually doesn't land.

Like it kind of reminds me of what's happening in the room.

And so in those moments, I'm like,

can we just step outside and like, can you tell me a joke to make me laugh?

So that I can be reminded of the glue that holds us together.

And I know that it doesn't exist in a vacuum, obviously. But I think those moments that kind of get at the

specificity of the connection that I have with the person whether it be like our

sense of humor or other commonalities like that has usually helped me get

through kind of those difficult moments even when I know that when we go back into the

room it's like all of those social forces we're pressing down again.

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On this episode of the Multiannery Podcast, we're talking about desirability politics and preferences.

We all have preferences when it comes to what and who we like, but what might we find when we analyze where those preferences come from.

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