I think that closure, especially when it comes to relationships ending, means I need to get something from the other person so that I can feel good about the ending of this and I can feel satisfied

about the ending of this. And I don't know, people sometimes think they like have a right

to some kind of closure and we really don't in life in relationships in death and grief and whatever like we don't really have a right to this and often it's really disempowering to put yourself in a position where it's like I need to get something from this other person.

This other person who may feel completely differently about the relationship or about the breakup may have completely different values,

maybe it was directly harmful to you potentially.

And so it's always felt a little backwards to me to be like, oh, I need to put it on them to like

make me feel good about the ending of this. But again, we get into cocaine withdrawal brain and it all seems

like it just makes sense. If I can just get a hit from this person, that's going to be the

thing that's going to make it feel good, but it's not.

Welcome to the multi-ammery podcast.

I'm Jace.

I'm Emily.

And I'm Dedicure.

We believe in looking to the future of relationships,

not maintaining the status quo of the past.

So whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just do

relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you. For some meter for myself to fix.

On this episode of the multi-ammery podcast, we're talking about heartbreak, breakups, and recovery.

There's a real mix of helpful and very unhelpful advice out there in the world for dealing with breakups or loss or heartbreaks things like that and so today we're going to be looking at some research about breakups and heartbreak sharing some of our personal experiences with it, and

looking at some suggestions for healthy recovery strategies.

Wow, okay, well, this is probably an episode that is near and

dared to a lot of people's hearts.

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