Welcome to Unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Loyenthile, master certified coach and founder of the School of New Feminist Thumb. I'm here to help you

turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one

that you're truly excited to live. Let's go.

Hello my friends, so last week I talked to you about how it's okay if big accomplishments feel anticlimactic, and I stand by that.

And it's also okay to feel joyful when exciting things happen.

So I am recording this on the day that the book hit the USA Today bestseller list,

number one for non-fiction releases, and I think number seven for overall but the six above it

were fiction. So that is super exciting. Still waiting to hear what happens with the

New York Times but I am really feeling joyful and also powerful. And I think that that's so

much of what my work is about is helping women feel powerful in their own lives.

I feel like a deep satisfaction at having worked

so hard to accomplish this goal and I would feel deeply satisfied even if I hadn't accomplished

this goal because I did that work and that work stands regardless but it's

also fun when you do hit a goal and it's okay to take joy and pleasure in that.

I think women are so socialized to downplay our own successes and God forbid that we seem excited about something

we've accomplished. It's as though that is somehow saying that we think we're better than someone else,

which is not an affliction that men suffer from.

So I just want to celebrate that with all of you and I want to celebrate you celebrating yourself

for whatever you have done that makes you feel proud and joyful. I'm actually thinking a lot about

the concept of joy and how it's sometimes an uncommon emotion for those of us who are a little type A, a little focused on achievement, a little

focused on self-betterment, and are, you know, feminists who are in touch with what's happening

in the world, which is often very troubling.

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