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and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, we're going

to be talking about what to do if your partner doesn't want to grow.

So this was inspired by a question that I received on Instagram last week, which was,

if I heal my anxious attachment, but my partner doesn't heal his avoidant attachment,

are we going to work?

Is the relationship going to fall apart?

And I think it's a really good question. I'm sure

it's one that many people can relate to. It's certainly a question that I would have asked

once upon a time, because it was a situation that I was in once upon a time. So I'm going to

give you some thoughts on that. I think it is really a nuanced topic and I'm going to give you

a few different perspectives on how to

approach that sort of mindset pieces as well as some tips, some encouragement so that you don't

become overly frustrated with the situation because it can happen but also, you know, a permission

slip to want a partner who wants to grow with you because that is a

perfectly valid thing to desire in your partner and in your relationship. And so I'll be

giving you some ways that you might soften your partner's resistance or pointing out some ways

in which you might be increasing your partner's resistance

and some tips for how to navigate that and hopefully make a bit of progress.

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