Hey friend, I'm Julie Sattery and you're listening to Java with Julie.

Thanks for joining me.

This podcast is an outreach of authentic intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming God's

design for sexuality.

One of the reasons you hear me use the word reclaim so often when we're talking about sexuality

is because really throughout the

course of our lives most of us have swallowed a lot of lies about our sexuality and that includes

some things we've actually heard from the church. An insufficient theology of sex and the fact

that we've been so squeamish to address sexuality have really hurt Christian couples in

the area of pornography use within marriage. So today, I sat down with Mark and Rosie McKinney

to talk about some of the misconceptions about porn use in marriage that you may have heard

in pastoral counseling or even explicitly from the pulpit. Now, let me just say, I am not here to beat up on pastors.

That's not my heart behind this conversation.

Most pastors have little to know training on how to address issues like pornography or sexual

dysfunction in marriage.

And so they tend to avoid these topics, or they just pass down what little advice they've

encountered over the years. Some of that

advice might be good, but other has actually proven to be destructive. So in today's conversation,

Rosie and Mark are going to share some of the myths around porn and marriage that many Christian

leaders have believed. A few of them are the way to avoid pornography is to make sure a husband's sexual

needs are met. There's a myth that porn-free marriages just aren't possible, or in the

myth that what a wife doesn't know won't hurt her. And of course, there's a lie out there that

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