334: What to Say When Friends or Family Use Another Agent
Hustle Humbly Podcast
Alissa Jenkins & Katy Caldwell
4.9 • 914 Ratings
🗓️ 29 December 2025
⏱️ 64 minutes
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Summary
It's happened to all of us at some point—your cousin, college roommate, or neighbor posts that they just bought or sold a house… but you weren't the agent. Ouch. If you've ever wondered how to handle it when a friend or family member uses someone else, this replay of one of our most-loved episodes has the clarity and pep talk you need.
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Originally aired as Episode 165, this candid conversation dives deep into the reality of *working with friends and family in real estate*. From professional boundaries to emotional resilience, we share our personal stories—rejections included—and offer tangible tips to protect your mindset and run a smooth business, even when things get awkward.
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Whether you're new to the business or 10 years in, this episode will remind you: it's not personal, it's business. And you've got what it takes to stay professional, kind, and confident through it all.
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Here's what we cover in this episode:
- How to professionally respond when loved ones don't choose you
- Tips for setting boundaries when working with people you know
- Scripts to request a referral (without begging)
- Why it's important to treat friends and family like real clients
- How to turn rejection into future opportunity
- The importance of systems to help you stay consistent with every client
- Real stories of rejection—and how we survived them
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Key Quotes & Takeaways
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"You can't expect your friends and family to use you. But you can always act like a professional—so they'll think of you next time." – Katy
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"Don't take it personally. It's not you, it's them. Seriously." – Alissa
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"Treat your cousin just like you would any other client—systems, email templates, boundaries and all." – Katy
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"If your friends think you hate real estate, why would they send you a referral?" – Alissa
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"Just because you know them doesn't mean you skip the buyer consultation." – Katy
Products, People & Previous Episodes Mentioned:
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Email Templates 101 — http://emailtemplates101.com
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Agent Systems 101 — http://agentsystems101.com
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Build Your Own Business 101 — https://hustlehumblypodcast.com/byob
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FREE Database Template — https://www.hustlehumblypodcast.com/starthere
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Membership Community — https://www.hustlehumblypodcast.com/membership
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, Alyssa. |
| 0:02.0 | Hey, Katie. |
| 0:03.0 | Merry Christmas and happy New Year to you. |
| 0:05.7 | Tis the season. |
| 0:06.6 | Tis the season. |
| 0:07.7 | So we're just here to say hello real quick. |
| 0:10.3 | Yeah. |
| 0:11.2 | And introduce an old episode. |
| 0:13.3 | We are going to replay our Working with Friends and Family episode. |
| 0:18.4 | You know, what? |
| 0:20.8 | Is Delilah on the radio? Is she like national? Yes, |
| 0:24.9 | Delilah. So I've been, I've been listening to 96.1. Okay. That's our, it's the Christmas |
| 0:30.9 | music channel. Yeah. Okay, but it's also the easy listening channel. And I've emailed, I've introduced Haven |
| 0:37.4 | to Delilah. And she's like, at first she's like, this is kind of weird. And now she kind of likes it. Because she wants to hear the love stories. Yeah. And it's funny because it's, I haven't listened in years. Yeah. And Delilah has like kept up with the times. Oh, really? |
| 0:55.1 | Tell me more. |
| 0:57.2 | This teenager called in. |
| 0:57.6 | Okay. |
| 1:01.7 | I was like, I'm crushing on this boy, but we're friends. And I just don't know what to do because I don't want to mess up the friendship. |
| 1:06.1 | And Delilah was like, so you're crushing on this boy. |
| 1:10.8 | You were like, Delilah, what is this? I'm like, Del you're crushing on this boy. |
| 1:13.1 | You were like, Delilah, what is this? |
| 1:21.6 | I'm like, Delilah's trying to, anyway, this came up because I'm, you know, in my Delilah season. |
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