333: How to Stop Being Controlling in Your Marriage
The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle
Laura Doyle
4.7 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2026
⏱️ 77 minutes
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Summary
What does it feel like for a husband when control disappears from a marriage?
You heard Stella's side of the story a few weeks ago. Today's episode offers a rare glimpse from the other side—her husband's.
Elijah opens up about the early years of their marriage, when broken trust, shame, and constant attempts to help him overcome his addiction left them stuck in painful cycles. He shares what it felt like to live under control and how that slowly eroded their connection.
Everything began to change when Stella started practicing the Six Intimacy Skills.
As she began doing things differently, Elijah experienced renewed confidence, a desire to lead, and a longing to reconnect with his wife.
In this episode, Elijah shares what it was like on the other side of Stella's transformation and how her changes helped turn a struggling marriage into one marked by friendship, attraction, and hope.
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| 0:00.0 | This is the Empowered Wife podcast. If you've ever wondered what's going through your husband's mind when you're practicing the six intimacy skills and if you're really making a difference, today's episode is just for you. A few weeks ago, my wonderful guest, Stella, shared how she transformed her marriage single-handedly without her husband's conscious effort. And today, you'll get to hear about her husband's |
| 0:22.1 | experience through it all straight from the man himself. Still's husband. Elijah shared all about |
| 0:28.8 | what it felt like to be controlled and what created distance and how Stella's changes with the |
| 0:33.4 | skills, inspired him to step up and lead and reconnect with her. And I especially loved |
| 0:39.2 | how brave and honest Elijah was about the pain and the growth and the ongoing journey. |
| 0:44.6 | Stick around for your Try It Tonight takeaway. My guest Elijah is married to Stella, who told us |
| 0:51.1 | her perspective of a marriage that went through the fire and came out transformed. |
| 0:56.4 | Now we get to hear Elijah's side, what he noticed changing and what it's really like to be on the receiving end of the six intimacy skills. |
| 1:04.3 | He agreed to come on the podcast and tell us what happened, which takes real courage and generosity. |
| 1:11.1 | And he's going to give us a perspective, a rare window, what your own husband might be experiencing |
| 1:17.8 | when you use the six intimacy skills. |
| 1:21.9 | Elijah, welcome to the Empowered Boy podcast. |
| 1:24.7 | I'm so excited that you're here. |
| 1:29.0 | Yeah, I'm glad to be here. |
| 1:36.6 | Thankful to be here. Great. Well, I'd love to hear what attracted you to your wife, Stella. |
| 1:45.5 | Like, what made you choose her? Man, all right, back to the beginning. So, try to make a long story short here. |
| 1:49.1 | So we went to the same high school, but big high school, like 3,000, 4,000 people, something |
| 1:54.7 | like that. |
| 1:55.1 | So we didn't know each other. |
| 1:56.5 | I was a senior. |
| 1:57.5 | She was a freshman. |
| 1:59.1 | Now, granted, I was young for my grade, so not a cradle robber. |
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