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Hey guys, welcome to episode 332. So let me get this straight. Thinking that everything

happens for a reason after a breakup is now deemed toxic positivity.

Let's dive in, shall we?

One of the most common phrases that people will say after a breakup is

everything happens for a reason. But some people have

the mentality that saying this phrase is toxic positivity and just to get everyone

on the same page here as to what that means.

Toxic positivity is the pressure to only display positive emotions,

suppressing any negative emotions, feelings, reactions, or experiences.

And to that I say, well obviously it's not about only displaying positive emotions because

how can you do that right when you're

feeling really down and out after breakup you're not running around jumping up and

down throwing fairy dust in the sky like you're just not doing that. And it's not about suppressing

negative emotions or experiences. You should feel all the feelings that you're

going through during a difficult time, But saying everything happens for a reason, it's about being

real because I don't know about you, but whenever some relationship has gone south in my life?

Sure, at the time, it may not make sense,

but then later, and usually not even that long after,

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