331. Should I Coach Myself or Should I Say/Do Something?

UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Kara Loewentheil

Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Philosophy, Society & Culture

4.6 • 5.5K Ratings

🗓️ 29 February 2024

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Imagine your partner, friend, parent, or boss says something to you that leaves you feeling angry, hurt, or otherwise extremely negative. Now you’re wondering, are you supposed to coach yourself out of this feeling, or do you say or do something about it? Join me on this episode to learn what to do the next time you find yourself asking the question, “Should I coach myself or should I say or do something?” I’m showing you the hidden assumptions that are driving this question, how this framing of self-coaching relates to our socialization as women, and a new way to approach the question of whether to coach yourself or take action.

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0:00.0	Imagine your partner says something that really upsets you, or maybe it's your boss, your parent, your neighbor.
0:05.6	It wrinkles. You're fuming about it, or you're hurt and you're sobbing about it.
0:10.6	Either way, your negative emotion is really high.
0:14.0	But you can't really figure out whether you're supposed to coach yourself or say something, so
0:18.3	you just keep spinning.
0:20.1	In today's episode, I'm going to teach you how to know what to do.
0:24.1	Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain, feminist self-help for everyone brought to you by the school of new feminist thought I'm your host Kara Loyuthile Harvard lawyer turned life coach, and I'm here to help you get society's sexist messages
0:47.2	out of your brain so you can be confident, feel powerful, and live a life you won't regret when you die.
0:54.6	If you want to jumpstart that process,
0:56.4	you need to grab my totally free guide
0:58.9	to feeling less anxious and more empowered
1:01.5	by rewiring your brain.
1:03.0	Just text your email to Plus 1,
1:05.0	347, 997, 1784,
1:10.0	and use code word brain,
1:12.0	or go to Unfuck your brain.com
1:14.3	forward slash brain. Now let's get to today's episode.
1:18.4	Tell me if this sounds familiar. You feel fired up about something, you feel confident in your
1:29.7	righteousness, you go to send that text dating a boundary, write that email to the client, have that
1:37.4	difficult conversation, leave the house in that daring outfit, whatever it is, and you
1:42.2	feel so strong until there's the first hint that someone
1:46.4	disapproves of what you're doing, or disagrees with your approach, or has any criticism whatsoever,
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