33. Letting Them Be Wrong About You
Insource
Ashlie Molstad
4.2 • 940 Ratings
🗓️ 29 June 2023
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
When I’m chatting with my clients in my 1:1 sessions, we always start with a bit go a download about who they are, what their life looks like currently, and what their obstacles are as they see them. They always respond with *thoughts* about themselves as if they are facts. They’ll say things like:
- Nothing I do really matters. I’m just a stay at home mom.
- I’m a lot to handle.
- I take things way too personally.
- My weight is holding me back.
- Etc etc etc
But these aren’t facts. These are thoughts. Which means they are optional. Now, when you’ve been practicing believing them for years, and your brain has collected a ton of evidence to show you how “true” they are, they don’t feel optional. But, its possible that you are wrong about you.
Once you become aware of some of your thoughts about you, you realize how optional they are. And once they become optional, you open your brain to the idea that there is another way to think about yourself, one that likely serves you better.
Now, your brain may still find evidence to support your previous belief, because that is what its been doing for years… and it may take other peoples actions or words as evidence to support a belief that no longer feels good. What I introduce in todays episode is the idea of letting them be wrong about you. Its powerful and life changing, which means its also incredible difficult. But we can do hard things.
See you inside 💥
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| 0:00.0 | So it's not factually these things that someone might not like about you. |
| 0:04.4 | It's not even a fact that that thing is not likeable. |
| 0:07.8 | So just decide to have your own back on this stuff, right? |
| 0:10.9 | I had to just decide in that moment with the glasses like I'm |
| 0:13.5 | gonna let you guys think that I am annoying embarrassing hi me whatever it is whatever |
| 0:17.6 | conclusion you need straw I have my own back on this I'm gonna let you be |
| 0:21.8 | wrong about me I'm gonna let you have your opinions, right? |
| 0:25.0 | I'm going to let you continue to love me and I'm not going to shrink here and act as if this one little thing is the whole of who I am. |
| 0:32.7 | I am not the worst parts of me. |
| 0:34.5 | You are not the worst parts of you. Well, well, welcome back to Insource the podcast that empowers you to reclaim |
| 0:56.2 | your authentic self and manifest the life of your dreams. I'm your host Ashley Milstead |
| 1:01.0 | former serial self-loather turned full-time CEO of my own damn |
| 1:06.2 | fan club and together, you and me, we're going to challenge our limiting beliefs, lean |
| 1:11.1 | into our authenticity, and live the life that you truly want, not just |
| 1:16.7 | the one that was expected of you. Today I want to talk to you about what it looks like to have your own back |
| 1:25.1 | and letting people be wrong about you. |
| 1:29.9 | This is something that's actually super near and dear to my heart. |
| 1:34.0 | It's a lesson that I am actively working on learning right now. |
| 1:38.8 | It's a new mindset that I'm currently cultivating. |
| 1:43.2 | And what I have learned very specifically |
| 1:47.4 | over the last two years of doing the work to like myself is I have started realizing what my triggers are, right? |
| 2:00.3 | I've started paying attention to my thoughts. |
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