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Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

#327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate

Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

Authentic Intimacy®

Relationships, Society & Culture, Christianity, Religion & Spirituality

4.91.7K Ratings

🗓️ 24 August 2020

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it’s easy to want to go looking for intimacy in other places. But what would it look to like to ditch the idea that there is something better outside your marriage and ask, instead, how you can keep your heart open to your spouse? Join Juli and her guests, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, for a candid conversation about tending to your heart during the busy, difficult, or painful seasons of life and marriage.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Transcript

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0:00.0

Well, on Java with Julie, you probably know that we don't do small talk, and that's because we address some really difficult questions around intimacy and sexuality.

0:12.3

Whether you're young or old or single or married, we're often unsure of what it means to see our sexuality as something intertwined with our spirituality and to see it as something good.

0:22.7

This fall, September 17th through the 20th, you're invited to Reclaim 2.0.

0:28.4

A free four-day digital summit. You'll hear from a lot of different experts like Jackie Hill

0:33.6

Perry, Jay Stringer, Christopher Yuan, Linda Dillo, Mary Dumuth, on topic spanning from

0:39.3

singleness, gender, sexual addiction, marriage, intimacy, and more in the light of God's Word.

0:46.0

And in addition to expert interviews, you can attend live panel discussions, view recordings

0:50.8

from some of my teachings last year at the Reclaim Conference and join me and

0:55.0

my husband Mike for a live devotional.

0:57.8

My hope for Reclaim 2.0 is that you'll walk away with a richer understanding of biblical

1:03.0

sexuality and what it means to live with sexual integrity and how to walk with others in both

1:08.5

the truth and grace of Jesus.

1:10.6

You can find out more and register at authenticanimacy.com slash reclaim.

1:15.6

I'll see you there.

1:21.6

Hey friend, I'm Julie Slattery, and thanks for joining me for this episode of Java with Julie.

1:29.8

Java with Julie is a podcast produced by authentic intimacy, a ministry dedicated to reclaiming

1:35.3

God's design for sexuality. Now, if you're married, you probably realize that reclaiming sexuality

1:41.8

often means doing some work in other areas of your marriage.

1:45.9

You know, the trust and intimacy that you have to have in the bedroom is almost always related

1:50.9

to the trust and intimacy you build outside the bedroom.

1:54.4

So if you want to work on sex in your marriage, you also have to work through the emotional

1:58.8

and relational issues as well.

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