Welcome to feedback Friday. I'm your host Jordan Harbinger and I'm here with producer Jason to fill up who just moved to Los Angeles like a five minutes ago.

Yeah really just I still have like road grime on me at this point.

Yeah well I might take a few days to come off but in the meantime let's have some conversations with our fascinating guests as usual but today of course we're gonna have conversations directly with our audience that's what we do on feedback Friday.

You can reach us you audience at large Friday at Jordan Harbinger.com.

This is today is for 20.

Oh that means something to some people not me some people not me personally either you know I don't I don't go in for those kinds of shenanigans but some people do so happy for 20.

I'm getting too old for this that's what I say about that housekeeping stuff look Vanessa van Edwards we did a video many of you are kind enough to remind me hey there's no video embedded in the show notes like you said and I went.

Yeah because I was traveling in LA doing some really good interviews for you guys I promise it was worth it but that video is up now and I'm sorry about that how's that second my friend Andrew Warner from mixergy he's hiring a second in command to run mixergy which is his Silicon Valley based podcast business.

So if you're someone who can't stop thinking of podcast marketing ideas and you think you'd be good at recruiting top guests you should apply go to Andrew Warner dot com slash hiring and you might be the lieutenant over at mixergy which would be pretty cool if you came from our show.

Alright of course here on feedback Friday we've got some fun ones and we've got some do's as usual Jason what's the first thing out of the mail bag.

Hey Jordan the names in the story have been changed to protect the innocent. I'm a 22 year old guy from Canada and recently started talking to this girl Lauren who lives in my building we hang out almost daily and we've been talking and hanging out for a few months now last week I went out with her in her roommates Mike and Stephanie to the bar for a drink.

Can I just pause you Lauren Mike and Stephanie are really good like fake white people names because that could be anyone.

I left the bar early that night went back to our building Stephanie started sending me messages after she'd started drinking and asked me why I never tried anything with her asking what I see in Lauren and later begs me not to talk about what happened.

Oops I've never been put into a situation where two girls are both interested much less to that live together since that night I've gotten into my own head about who to talk to and what to do.

Should I risk throwing away the last month with this girl or tell her friend to back off as I spend more time with them I find myself more attracted to her roommates personality but I still have a better bond with Lauren as we have previous history any advice would be appreciated thanks for all the hard work you guys do with the show signed stuck between a rock and a hard place.

So this is looking at kind of the wrong things here first of all he's letting them kind of dictate the choice here said oh no they're both interested now well all right fine but you were interested in one before and now you're interested in the other one because she says she likes you what's going on here that doesn't make any sense that's that's a bad way to let.

This relationship thing happen because you want to pick the person that you want to pick not be go oh I could get this other person that I'm also interested in shoot I remember when I was in high school.

I had this crush on this gal and a keeper and that is not a fake name I don't care she knows and it's so long ago and I thought oh this girl is really pretty and we became friends and then I started dating this other girl named Jill and I kind of forgot about an a keeper and then one day she was like oh you know I have a crush on you and I was like oh crap.

You know I I was dating this other girl Jill I wish I'd know and I would have jumped ship and then I thought well this is really crappy I really like Jill too.

And what am I doing here I'm not just going to react to the people that like me that was really bad I learned that lesson that way because I really just destroyed the relationship with both of them which is really stupid.

And we didn't make any sense and that's exactly what's going to happen here but aside from that what I should have said first probably is do not date your roommate or anyone else's roommate or anyone who lives in your building.

The same rule applies whether they live with you or they live with each other don't you think Jason oh yeah.

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