I've spent the last five and a half years working full time coaching adults with ADHD from all

over the world. And do you know that they all have one thing in common? That one thing is this.

They believe that they can't trust themselves because they suck at following through.

Now, following through is a hallmark issue for adults with ADHD. This is because we have

some pretty weak executive functioning skills that do work

against us. And yes, we've created a lot of evidence along the way over decades that we don't

follow through. But what we do with that evidence is pretty mean. What I see happen over and over is

that adults with ADHD use this lack of follow through against themselves like a lawyer would

in a courtroom. Exhibit

1, Your Honor. That time that you said you would bake cookies for your son's class party, and then you

forgot to do it. Exhibit 2. That time that you volunteered for a work project. And then you submitted

it three weeks after the deadline, causing the whole team to panic. Exhibit 3. That time that you

joined a gym, I've literally done this. So parentheses here, I have literally done this. That time that you joined a gym, I've literally done this. So,

parentheses here, I have literally done this. That time that you joined a gym and you made a

commitment to yourself to work out every other day. And you only lasted three times before you

threw in the towel. And now you're still paying gym fees months or years later. And then the

inner lawyer screams, I rest my case, Your Honor. We're so mean to

ourselves sometimes. And now maybe you're so convinced that you can't trust yourself that you don't

commit to anything that you really want to do and you keep yourself small. You say things like,

I can't go to grad school because I don't trust myself to finish. I can't take this promotion

because I don't trust myself to do a good job with it.

Or I'm not even going to bother trying to eat healthy or work out because I know I'm just never

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