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Hustle Humbly Podcast

319: The Realtor Control Freak Survival Guide

Hustle Humbly Podcast

Alissa Jenkins & Katy Caldwell

Entrepreneurship, Business

4.9914 Ratings

🗓️ 15 September 2025

⏱️ 54 minutes

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Summary

Are you obsessing over that listing that just won't sell? Feeling like a failure even though you've done everything you possibly can for your clients? This episode is your mindset reset.

We're getting honest about the hard truth so many Realtors need to hear: you can't control everything. The current market is weird, unpredictable, and frankly, a little rude. And if you're tying your value and self-worth to outcomes you can't control — like a closing happening or not — then you're setting yourself up for burnout.

Inspired by real conversations with stressed-out agents, our own challenging transactions, and the pressure we all feel to "make it happen," this chat is for all the control freaks (hi, it's us) who need a reminder about what actually is in our control.

We'll walk through the things you can't control, like:

  • Interest rates, the economy, or inventory

  • Whether your clients take your advice

  • Another agent's professionalism

  • A buyer canceling due to a knee replacement (true story)

  • Feedback (or the lack of it)

And the things you CAN control, including:

  • How often you follow up and communicate

  • The way you set expectations and share data

  • Your systems, organization, and boundaries

  • Your mindset and gratitude

  • How many clients you take on at once

If you're feeling stuck, unappreciated, or just overwhelmed by this wild market, this pep talk will help you shift the focus back to what you can do—and let go of what you can't. Because if you're doing your job, communicating well, and staying professional, then you are a great agent... even if the house hasn't sold yet.

Key Quotes/Takeaways

  • "You cannot tie your worth to whether or not the house sells." — Alissa

  • "If I've done my job, I sleep well at night. That's what I can control." — Alissa

  • "You can't control if they take your advice. But it's your job to give it." — Alissa

  • "Client acquisition and client service are two different jobs." — Katy

  • "You deserve that Saturday phone call if you didn't do your Friday update." — Alissa

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Music:

Straight A's by Conner Price

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Transcript

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0:00.0

I've been breaking a lot of hearts lately.

0:03.0

It's the market.

0:04.0

But it's also like the more hearts I break, the more they want me.

0:07.0

And I'm like, now you're addicted.

0:09.0

What?

0:10.0

You're like, let me tell you everything that's wrong with your house.

0:13.0

She's known for years that she needed knee replacement, and today is the day that her knee has given out.

0:29.6

The only time I get to a really anxious place with a listing is if I have gone too long without communicating with the seller.

0:31.6

Right.

0:33.6

You send the email from where you're at emotionally and they receive it where they're at.

0:39.3

So if they're already stressed and they read your email or they're upset or angry, they read it in that, they give it a tone.

0:46.3

She was being an A plus agent above and beyond and felt like a fail-year...

0:53.3

She was giving herself an F. Yeah, she was giving

0:55.7

herself an F because the house hadn't sold. Hi y'all. Welcome to Hustle Humbley. It's Alyssa and

1:02.4

Katie and we are two active realtors in the Baton Rouge market. We work for two different companies

1:07.2

where we should be competitors, but we have chosen community over competition. The goal of our

1:11.4

podcast is to encourage you to find your own way in business. So stop comparing yourself and start

1:16.5

embracing your strength. Hi, Alyssa. Hey, Katie. Welcome to episode 319, things you can and cannot

1:26.1

control. This will be like podcast therapy, not only for me, but for all the other control freaks out there.

1:32.4

I'm one too.

1:33.4

Yeah.

1:34.0

I just want to control it all.

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