302. Limerence Vs Love: How Obsession is Getting in the Way of you Finding Love
Do You F*cking Mind?
Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa - Neuroscientist and Mindset Coach
4.9 • 914 Ratings
🗓️ 13 February 2024
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
Do you find that you fall heeadd over heels with someone on a first date? Or even BEFORE the first date? Do you watch Rom-Coms and think Oh MY GOD that’s what I need. My beautiful bean you are confusing love with limerence.
I’m going to take you through what limerence is, how it differs from love, why romantic movies are selling you a LIE and finally – how to chill and calm your farm when you’re dating. It might just help you find someone you’re actually compatible with!
RECOMMENDATIONS
- Listen to my interview with Sabrina Zohar where we talked about Limerence at https://pod.fo/e/216a82.
- Read The Gottman framework for the 3 Phases of Love at https://bit.ly/gottman-love .
- Listen to my episode 48. Lets break down attachment theory / styles’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f8308 .
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
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| 0:00.0 | A Listener Production |
| 0:03.9 | Please leave your message after the tone |
| 0:07.3 | Why am I jealous of my ex? |
| 0:09.8 | I am so stressed all the time |
| 0:11.7 | How do I get into a routine? |
| 0:13.3 | Is TikTok making me anxious? |
| 0:15.2 | I think I'm being manipulated. |
| 0:17.0 | Someone told me you could live with half a brain. |
| 0:19.4 | This is Do You Fucking Mind, Mindset Hacks for a Badass Life, hosted by me, Alexis Fernandez. |
| 0:26.1 | All right, welcome everyone. |
| 0:27.7 | Welcome to the episode of today. |
| 0:29.9 | Now, this is an episode that I'm actually really, really excited to bring to you because it is something that I think so many of us have experienced definitely myself, especially when I |
| 0:41.4 | was younger. And it's something that's really prevalent in like pop culture and films. And it kind |
| 0:46.5 | of really normalizes this feeling of limerance, which is what I'm talking about, as being love. |
| 0:52.0 | So we're going to be breaking down the difference between limerence versus love, |
| 0:57.4 | what limerence feels like, how it can be so intense, where it can differ from love. |
| 1:02.2 | And you can also understand how you can have a lot of limerent behaviors, |
| 1:06.5 | but it actually end up being love, or it can just be straight up limerance |
| 1:09.6 | and why it's so difficult |
| 1:11.7 | to deal with it when, you know, the relationship doesn't unfold the way you want it to unfold |
| 1:17.3 | and when you are experiencing liberance to someone who does not reciprocate the feelings |
| 1:23.6 | and why it is so difficult to get over it. I recently did an interview, I interviewed |
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