Greetings to you beautiful friends. It is I detrustle and you are listening to the Dugget

Trustle Family Hour Podcast number one I'm sorry about my voice. I know it sounds more

cracked and broken than usual but I'll explain. My dad just passed away and I'm sitting

in a hotel in Daphne, Alabama after having spent several days helping my father transition

and having a few breakdowns along the way. Don't worry I'm fine. Literally fine, not fake

fine, not saying I'm fine. I'm fine. Thank God for the Ramdas retreats and thank God

for all the things that they have taught me about how to be with dying people and how to

deal with my own grief and mostly how to get myself out of the way to let the dying

person have their death which is an easy thing to not do. You'll notice when you the next

time you find yourself sitting with a dying person you'll find there's a wide variety

of reactions to death from complete avoidance to turning the entire fucking thing into a

play in which the dying person is an extra. I got a call last Monday that my dad had taken

a downturn. COPD is one of the number one killers of people on the planet based on my internet

research. It's a shitty disease. Your lungs just gradually stop working and as part of

that you you can end up getting confused in the last stages which is what was happening

with my dad. So I knew I had to get down there so we took a red eye, my wife and I took

a red eye and got to Alabama and got to my dad's place and spent the next few days making

sure that he was comfortable and letting his friends know that he had gotten really sick.

My dad was the eternal optimist and the epitome of the Southern gentleman and he was not

going to let you know if he was feeling bad and that's a double edged sword man that's

a double edged sword and he didn't want his friends who he had a great many to be worried

about him in his last days so he just didn't let him know and they were all taken by surprise

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