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With the experience that you had with the care provided by Southern Care Daphne, do you have a moment to answer?

Shit, that was crazy. That was my dad's hospice just called. Southern Care hospice. They're amazing. Hospice is amazing, but Southern Care hospice is pretty cool.

And they just call to check in on you to make sure you're doing okay.

Because people just don't, like in the West, we're so, most of us, many of us in the West, we are so oblivious to DTFH, and especially to the effects it has on our psyche.

It's like you don't even think about it. I didn't think about it. Like when I went to be with my dad, I wasn't thinking about the week after at all.

I was just like, all right, I've got to get down there, I've got to make sure he's okay, I've got to make sure he's comfortable, I've got to make sure he's got care.

Make sure that the forms are filled. There's a million stupid forms. I just wasn't even thinking like, oh, the next, when you get back to LA, you're going to be feeling it.

I think a lot of people do that. So when I got back home, I was my wife, had a friend staying over, and we were all like, I was like, oh, let's all go to a movie.

And then, like, I didn't even felt it. It hadn't even happened. And then bam, then just a grief wave.

Soonami level grief wave. And it's like, you don't want to be a bad host by like breaking down a sobbing mess in front of your wife's guest.

So I ended up, you know, mildly freaking out, getting in an Uber, going to a hotel, which is like, you have this stupid instinct.

I was like a dog that wants to crawl into a porch or something. And then I went to the hotel, melted down, just eating like just like eating shit, eating just garbage from the wet bar.

And then just shoving my face full of food and then laying down and then crying and then like just a mess, just a fucking mess laying in the bathtub.

And then suddenly, oh, I feel totally fine. That's how grief works. And right in the midst of recording, the Southern Care hospice was calling.

And the, you know, hospice workers are really like good. They not a deal with bereaved people.

So she's like, you know, this everyone has a different grieving process. But sometimes people report starting crying and feeling like they can't stop.

And then I was able to tell her, yeah, I know what you're talking about. That's definitely I land in that category. But lately, I've been okay. Don't worry about me.

I've had some kind of, I've had some kind of a couple of friends. I don't, I'm not, this isn't some kind of like sympathy call or anything like that. I'm just reporting in from the zone that I'm in right now.

And it's a, it's a, it's a magical place. And that was one of the things, Rochie Joan Halifax. This wonderful Zen Rochie said to me was,

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