Hi, welcome back to the Personality Hacker Podcast. My name is Joel Mark Witt.

And I'm Antonio Dodge.

We're going to talk about optimizing your relationship with a quick little three-step framework.

We just broke this down to three easy steps and there's more complication to each step,

but basically this framework you can latch on to

when you want to look at your relationship and say I want to make it better I want to

optimize it I want to correct something that's not working well any kind of change you

want to make to that we believe that this little framework will help you through that process.

Now, we've just talked about relationships, the last three podcasts.

We talked about two different podcasts on personality types and relationships, dichotomies and then cognitive

functions and how they relate to each other and in relationship.

And then we talked about last podcast, we talked about systems thinking in relationships and how there is really no cause and effect in your relationship.

Everything you deal with between the two of you, your lover, your spouse, your mate, your parabond partner,

everything you deal with is an emergent of an entire system that's running.

And all the nodes or parts of that system influence what emerges in the relationship.

But you haven't listened to those three podcasts,

you'd be really good to go back and listen to them before you listen to this one,

because this one's going to build upon some of the things we talked about,

especially in the systems thinking one,

and we're going to give you some application today

to think about how you can make the changes you want to make by building upon that systems thinking

idea.

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