Hey, welcome back to the Personality Hacker Podcast. My name is Joe Mark Witt.

And I'm Antonio Dodge. Today we're talking about relationships as they relate to systems thinking.

So let me unpack what that means here.

We did a podcast a long time ago about systems thinking

where we basically said that we don't believe anymore

in this idea of cause and effect thinking.

There's not one cause for anything that happens in the world.

Everything that happens, everything happens in your life, in life around you in other people's lives is an emergent property

of an entire system that's running.

So there's all these nodes in a system that create an emergent of something happening.

For example, the example we gave is a car starting, you know, a vehicle turning on.

It's not that you stick the key in the ignition of the vehicle and you turn the key and the car

turns on a cause and effect thinking.

It's actually when you turn that key an entire system a chain reaction goes off, all these

different processes happen in the vehicle to start the engine.

And basically we look at relationships in a very similar fashion.

It's not that anything in your relationship, your romantic relationship in

particular what we're talking about today, happens by cause and effect. It's all an

emergent of entire systems running and we thought we could talk about this today and the reason

why we chose this topic is because we believe it's a great benefit for you listening

to apply to your current romantic relationship or one you want to have in the future because all of them are

systems in and of themselves and they have emergence that are influenced by all the what we call

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