Hello there, my lovely biscuits and buttercups.

My name is Stephen Hussie, this is of course the Love Life podcast and I got a question for you.

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who makes you feel like you're crazy?

Who makes you feel like you suddenly take on a label that you never took on before?

Maybe they say to you, you're so selfish, you're always thinking about you or they say,

you're so difficult all the time, you're so needy, you're such a problem.

And you think, I don't usually feel like I'm a selfish person, I don't usually feel like I'm needy,

I don't usually feel like I cause all of these upsets and problems.

But suddenly you're walking on egg shells, you're worried about putting a foot wrong,

you think that everything you do is going to incite a massive disagreement, an argument, a fight.

And you think, how did I get to this place? I feel like I'm just being my normal self and suddenly everything I do is wrong.

Well, it's just possible, you may be a victim of gaslighting.

Gaslighting of course is when you're made by someone else to feel like you're crazy or they distort the truth in a way that makes you start to question your reality

and you're not sure what's up or down anymore, you're not sure if it's you or if it's them or what's going on.

And then you're in a trap because you don't, if you don't know if you're acting crazy or not,

it's very hard to decide who's the problem in the relationship.

So if this sounds like something you've been through before, I'm going to pass over to my brother Matthew right now

who's going to talk all about gaslighting. Check it out.

What is gaslighting? Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or group covertly so seeds of doubt in a target individual or group

making them question their own memory, perception or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes including low self-esteem.

That sounds bad doesn't it? Typically we'd associate such a horrible thing with the behavior of a narcissist at the extreme end.

And of course what makes it so horrible is the intentional sowing seeds of doubt, the willing someone to think that they are crazy, that they've lost touch with reality.

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