Hi I'm Matthew Hussey, welcome to Love Life. It's a privilege to be able to offer you bite-sized bits of advice on this podcast that you can use every day.

But what if you're ready for a big transformation and you want to do it now?

You want to reinvent your career or finally find lasting love or break free from the self-doubt that's holding you back from living the abundant life you were meant to live.

If you're saying yes Matt, that's me. I'm going to tell you exactly how to do just that at the end of today's show. So make sure you stay tuned. First let's get to today's episode.

Today we are talking about three secrets to making a first day less awkward. I have three quick ways for you to do this.

The first one is touch early and often. Now what most people do the mistake they make is they say I don't know this person very well and I certainly don't want to seem too keen.

So I'm not going to get very tactile with this person in the beginning. I'm going to just let us warm up through the date.

The problem with that is the longer you leave it before introducing touch, the more awkward touch becomes.

So touch allows us to create these levels which make a smoother transition between each stage.

You as a woman have a power to do this if you initially see him and you give him a big hug.

I mean look the guy came out to see you. You're both together. It's a great moment that you both showed up for each other. Give him a hug.

Give him a kiss on the cheek if you want. It's absolutely fine. It doesn't come across as desperate. You just look like a woman who's warm.

Same goes for you guys. If the woman looks a little uncomfortable, don't be afraid to lean in and give a hug.

It doesn't have to be suggestive. It's just a way to introduce physical contact.

You can also do this throughout the date by resting your hand on his shoulder when you make a point or touching him very briefly.

If you're trying to wake him up from a little moment of you both being distracted, those little touches are crucial when it comes to building that connection.

The second thing is don't sit opposite each other. Immediately you end up creating awkwardness because of course when there's a silence there's nowhere for you to look.

You can't look over his shoulder or to your left. Whereas if you're sitting either adjacent to someone or next to them in like a park bench style, you can watch the world together.

It's almost like your people watching. So now when there's an awkward silence, it's not actually awkward. It's just a silence because you're both looking out onto the world.

When you're ready to regain the conversation, you can turn to your side and say, oh, I really wanted to tell you about this thing and carry on.

So do not ever be in that place where you're opposite each other. Sit next to him or adjacent to him.

Lastly, do something that involves you actually having some level of external focus.

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