3 Rules for Stimulating Authenticity in Elders Quorum | An Interview with Bryan Hurd
Leading Saints Podcast
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🗓️ 20 January 2024
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Bryan Hurd earned a Bachelor’s of Science in Accounting from Utah State University and has been a realtor for almost 20 years. He lives his motto, “Be the most positive person I know,” and attributes much of his success to a positive, can-do attitude and surrounding himself with “A” players. Bryan and his wife, Chandi, have four amazing boys and you can find the Hurd family at an RSL soccer game, the swimming pool, out on hiking trails, the library, or in the backyard enjoying life together.
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Highlights
1:45 Introduction to Bryan Hurd. Kurt’s realtor and friend. Kurt’s moving miracle! 6:30 Bryan has great relationships and connections with his clients. He makes everyone feel like they are his best friend. He takes time to listen and ask questions. He makes people feel important. 9:45 There are 3 types of guys in the elders quorum. Connecting with the guy that you don’t normally see.
- The dude I never see
- The dude I see but he’s checked out
- The dude that’s there and trying to do the best he can.
13:30 The blessing of being with a youth. A youth leader can be as influential to a youth member as their parents or maybe in some cases more so. That is sacred. 14:10 What’s sacred about elders quorum? Most men don’t have more than 3 friends. We have the opportunity to create that connection. 15:45 Bryan felt the call to help more of the men around him and in his ward. Bryan shares his story and where this call came from. 19:45 A common fallacy is that external success creates internal happiness. Having divine discontentment. 22:15 The best way to heal a broken heart is to put it to work. Working on yourself. 28:30 What is The Evolution Project? How did it start? Bryan’s job is to organize everything and God takes care of the rest. If a man goes in nature then God will find him. The Evolution Project isn’t therapy but about providing men experiences that are transformational. 36:00 Bryan shares an experience of one of the men at one of The Evolution Project events. 38:45 Three principles or rules that The Evolution Project focuses on.
- Have a safe environment. Don’t share people’s personal stories outside the group.
- I statements: Own your story.
- When someone speaks, you don’t have the right to cross-coach them. Ask first.
43:20 Men just need to talk it out. Someone to listen. They don’t necessarily need therapy or coaching. 44:30 Seeing the 3 evolution project’s rules in your next elders quorum meeting. Noticing when there is cross coaching and not using I statements. We need to create rules and boundaries in these meetings to create safety so that people feel safe to open up in front of others. 47:00 What do we need to understand about grace? 49:40 More on the next The Evolution Project events and Warrior Heart events. 52:45 You can’t lead people where you haven’t been. We have to go through hard times to help others.
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| 0:00.0 | How do you help someone tell their spouse that they have secretly been viewing pornography? |
| 0:07.0 | Wow, these are tough situations. |
| 0:10.0 | Thankfully, one of my favorite and most effective therapists Jeff Struer put together a presentation about |
| 0:15.4 | disclosing betrayal. Jeff explains how disclosing betrayal can make recovery and |
| 0:21.1 | repentance so much more difficult if it isn't handled correctly. |
| 0:25.0 | This isn't a rip the bandaid off quickly type of situation. |
| 0:28.0 | With a better understanding of betrayal, church leaders can be a strong resource in helping couples navigate the awful effects of pornography usage. |
| 0:37.0 | You can watch Jeff's entire presentation at no cost in the Liberating Saints virtual library. |
| 0:42.0 | Simply go to leading Saints.org |
| 0:44.0 | slash 14 and you can sign up for 14 days of free access |
| 0:47.8 | to Jeff's presentation and the entire library. |
| 0:50.8 | It's one of my favorite interviews. |
| 0:53.0 | All right, let's go around the room, do some introductions. |
| 1:00.0 | I'll start. |
| 1:01.0 | So my name is Kurt Frankham. |
| 1:02.0 | I am the executive director of |
| 1:03.8 | leading Saints which is a 501c3 nonprofit organization and we are dedicated |
| 1:09.4 | you know have a mission here to help Latter-day Saints be better prepared to lead. Now me personally I live in |
| 1:15.3 | Stansbury Park, Utah which is in Twilla County. I grew up in West Valley City and |
| 1:20.5 | have been running leading Saints really since 2010 when it started out as a hobby blog. |
| 1:24.9 | 2014 is when the podcast started and now we are over 10 million downloads and man we're glad that you are now one of those downloads. Let's jump in. All right, today I love to welcome in my brother from another mother. |
| 1:49.2 | Brian Heard. |
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