Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert, Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey guys, welcome back to On Attachment.

Today we're going to be doing a Q&A episode.

So I've collected questions.

I get so many amazing questions on Instagram from people in my community and there's only so many that I can address in that forum. And so thankfully, I've been filing

them all away. And I'm going to address some of them here. So today I'm going to be looking at

some dating questions. So various

questions that relate to that dating phase of relationships before you're really,

before you're really in the steady phase. And I think the dating phase, in particular,

for anxiously attached folk, dating can be pretty intense and can be

really anxiety-inducing. Of course, at the same time, it can be really exciting. But yeah,

it can throw some curveballs. And so I'm going to answer some of your questions that I've received broadly relating to dating.

So the first question is,

when do I stop giving a person I'm dating another chance

if I've given them more than once before?

I think this is a really hard one

and also really simple, put differently.

It's probably simple but not easy.

My advice here is when someone's actions and their words are consistently mismatched.

We have to believe their actions, right?

As much as we might want to believe that they are going to change,

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