Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff.

Creating happiness in our own lives isn't necessarily complicated. It's just certain things we have to do in order to accomplish that task.

In a similar way, losing weight isn't necessarily complicated.

We need to exercise more and eat less. It's just, for many of us, hard to do. But when it comes to happiness in regards to others, then it can get a little bit more tricky.

For example, we could be having a really nice day, keeping our thoughts in check, living in the present moment,

and really flowing well with life.

But our partner, our children, our family, maybe not having the same experience as we are, and there's a real temptation

to want to try and help them. And it comes with really good intent. We're trying to help people that we love have a better day, have a better life.

We know what works for us. Won't it work for them too?

But let's go back to the weight analogy. Let's say we get up every day, we work out, we go to the

gym, we do things to get our bodies fed, we eat really well and really watch our diet.

But let's say our partner isn't doing that. If we comment on how

they're doing it not correctly, won't they get mad at us? Won't they get upset?

I think we would quickly find that if we comment on how they need to improve their lives,

or they need to get healthier,

and even though this comes with, in many ways, a positive aspect to it,

we're trying to help them, we're going to get, I can pretty much guarantee you, in most most cases a resounding back off.

It's none of your business or they may even turn towards us and start attacking us

for the way we're living our lives and try to get us to change to be more like them.

This is the tricky part of having people in our lives that we love.

It's usually the people that are closest to us, our family,

our children, our partners, and sometimes the people that we love are struggling.

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