Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my chickens, how are you?

I feel like this time of year is just barreling towards summer.

Like February and March can feel fucking endless and then suddenly like,

hi, it's almost June.

The perception of time is a weird, weird thing.

Anyway, that is not what we are here to talk about.

Today we are here to talk about criticizing other people

and how to stop doing it.

This is actually going to be a two-part episode because I wrote this and I was

like, wow, that's long. This is too much. So we're going to do this in two episodes. In this

episode I'm going to be more talking about diagnosing and understanding the problem and then in the next episode I'm going to teach you more what to do about it and what I've been doing about it.

So I feel like I need to give a little bit of a framing and disclaimer for this because I know that some of us have our hackles going up already, especially our feminist hackles, that this is not an episode about how ever expressing your opinion is

criticizing or that you know women should just be nice and gentle and whatever

nonsense like you know all the dumb shit online that's like,

well if you just don't expect anything of your male partner, then he'll be motivated to step up and provide it.

That's obviously not what I'm talking about.

Criticism is not the same as asking for what you want or sharing consented to feedback or stating a boundary or letting someone know your opinion on something when it's

kind of appropriate and warranted and I'm sorry that there's no clear bright line

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