#283 Listener Episode: Breaking Anxious-Avoidant Patterns with Chris

Heal Your Heartbreak

Break Up Bestie

Society & Culture, Relationships, Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 714 Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2025

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.

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0:00.0	If you are looking for even more help and guidance on your breakup, I have a few different
0:04.2	options for you to take your healing to the next level. I have four different online courses
0:08.7	depending on what stage of the breakup that you're in from beginning all the way into moving
0:13.5	on after heartbreak, or you can bundle all of my courses together and use the code podcast
0:18.6	to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:21.8	I also have my 30-day no-contact challenge to help hold you accountable in going no
0:26.1	contact with your ex.
0:27.7	And we have our free Facebook group, Healing Hearts Club, where you can connect with other
0:31.4	people going through breakups all over the world.
0:34.2	To learn more about any of these resources, head to the show notes where you can learn more
0:38.2	about my courses, take the quiz to figure out which course is best for you, or join the Facebook
0:43.0	group. And don't forget to use the code podcast to get $25 off my course bundle.
0:53.8	Welcome to the heal your heartbreak podcast with your host, Breakup Bestie, aka me, Kendra.
1:01.1	Breakups are hard, but you don't have to do it alone.
1:04.4	Each week, I will be taking you through a different topic as it relates to breaking up, healing from heartbreak, growing in your single life, dating,
1:13.1	and getting back into happier and healthier relationships. The goal of this show is to provide
1:18.9	support, hope, tips, and to remind you that above all, this too shall pass.
1:28.9	Welcome back to another listener episode of the heal your heartbreak podcast.
1:32.4	We have another male listener today, which I'm so excited we're adding to this roster.
1:36.7	It's always something that people request.
1:39.6	And like I said, I don't get a ton of offers for people.
1:42.8	But Chris was such a great interview.
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