#282: Pick Up Artists and Solving Murders, Neil Strauss on His Life After Writing The Game

The Gabby Reece Show

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Health & Fitness, Business, Society & Culture, Relationships, Entrepreneurship, Mental Health

4.8 • 890 Ratings

🗓️ 19 August 2024

⏱️ 128 minutes

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Gabby sits down with renowned author and journalist Neil Strauss. Best known for his groundbreaking book The Game, Neil reflects on his journey from being a pickup artist to becoming a celebrated writer, podcaster, and advocate for self-improvement. Together, they discuss personal transformation, relationships, and how to navigate the complexities of love and life. Neil shares insights on overcoming insecurities, finding personal growth, and his current passion for exploring human psychology through crime podcasts. This episode is a raw and candid conversation about growth, self-awareness, and the evolution of one’s identity. Sponsors: Maui Nui - Get 20% off your first order of fresh venison, jerky, broth, and ‘ohana subscription by going to www.MauiNuiVenison.com/GABBY and using the code GABBY at checkout. Fatty 15 - Fatty15 is on a mission to replenish your C15 levels and restore your long-term health. You can get an additional 15% off their 90-day subscription Starter Kit by going to fatty15.com/GABBY and using code GABBY at checkout for an additional 15% off your first order. Bon Charge - My listeners get 15% off when you order from boncharge.com and use my exclusive promo code GABBY at checkout Main Sections & Timecodes Introduction to Neil Strauss and His Journey Beyond The Game [00:00:00 - 00:10:00] Neil reflects on his career and the long-lasting impact of The Game. From Pickup Artist to Personal Growth Advocate [00:10:01 - 00:25:00] Neil shares how his views on relationships and personal growth have evolved over the years. The Emotional Impact of Relationships [00:25:01 - 00:40:00] Discussing insecurities, Neil provides insights into navigating the complexities of love and emotions. Crime Podcasting and Real-Life Investigations [00:40:01 - 00:55:00] Neil talks about his fascination with crime stories and the lessons learned from true-life investigations. Love, Boundaries, and Growth [00:55:01 - 01:10:00] A candid discussion on setting healthy boundaries and how relationships can fuel personal growth. Exploring Vulnerability in Personal Growth [01:10:01 - 01:20:00] Neil delves into how vulnerability plays a crucial role in personal growth and relationships, sharing personal experiences of opening up emotionally and the impact it has had on his life. The Psychology Behind True Crime Podcasting [01:20:01 - 01:30:00] Gabby and Neil discuss Neil’s transition into crime podcasting, exploring the psychological elements that make true crime so engaging and how it helps listeners understand human behavior on a deeper level. Healing from Past Mistakes and Relationship Dynamics [01:30:01 - 01:40:00] Neil reflects on his past mistakes in relationships, how they have shaped him, and the role of forgiveness and self-awareness in healing. He also touches on the evolving dynamics in modern relationships. Balancing Professional Success and Personal Life [01:40:01 - 01:50:00] The conversation shifts to the topic of maintaining a balance between professional aspirations and personal fulfillment. Neil shares insights into how he has managed to balance writing, podcasting, and personal growth. Everything Gabby Reece: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/OfficialGabrielleReece/ Gabby Reece Website - https://gabriellereece.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	But your first really big work was the game.
0:04.0	There is a residue about who people think you are
0:08.0	because of this piece of work.
0:09.5	That was like a book I did like whatever, it was 15, 17 years years ago I feel like I've done some cool
0:13.9	shit since then I'm taking calls from a private investigator for meeting with the
0:17.2	police I rented a room in the home of someone we suspected having done it
0:21.5	next thing we know Mal Buchanan's closed. There's
0:24.2	helicopters as police and she's like I just solved this crime. And that led you to
0:28.1	the Russian spies that are trained to kill somebody. I got dosed by an evil shaman.
0:37.0	I just love learning about how really how the world works
0:40.0	by experiencing it.
0:42.0	So what did I learn and what was the big takeaway from the game? It was, to me it was like open up the door to self-improvement. I thought I'm like this and I'm the guy who's always like this and then I realized, oh no, I can change. Beable is a super shy, introverted, uncomfortable person to go anywhere and start
0:55.1	comfortable with anyone. If someone isn't a place of feeling less than not good
1:00.3	enough, awkward shy, what would be a really powerful first productive step?
1:05.0	I think when it comes to sex to money,
1:07.5	people have a lot of baggage issues around these two things.
1:10.3	I think that people think men are the only ones that have this crisis. I had this crises. I remember
1:15.7	clearest day at 30 being like, oh is this what it is? The game is one of the best-selling
1:22.4	books of all time.
1:23.6	Neil Strauss's journey into the underworld of pickup artists
1:27.0	was as transformative for our society as it was controversial.
1:30.6	The concept of peacocking, negging, and so many other often toxic dating tactics were explored and highlighted within the book.
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