This is the Terry Cole show and as you might have guessed I'm your host Terry Cole

for over two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist, love and boundaries expert,

and I'm also the founder of the Real Love Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

On this show, I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert

interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines

in the fascinating world of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health. Now let's get going with

today's episode. Well hello and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole Show. I'm as always so

happy that you are hanging out with me today for a little bit. We're going to be

talking about how to avoid covert

manipulation and control because this can be very sneaky and a lot of us already

walk around with a lot of guilt. We don't feel like we're doing enough. Those of you who are a perfectionist and we can believe someone else's lies about us or our behavior and that is a very painful cycle to get stuck in.

So I've created a little downloadable guide for you.

All you have to do to get it is go to Terry Cole.com

forward slash 282, because this is the

282th episode of the Terry Cole show.

I know you can't believe it, or maybe just, I can't believe it. This is a topic that comes up

quite a bit though when people send me emails trying to see if they can trust their own reality and how they think they're being in the world and in their relationship

and feeling bad. So let's talk about some of the most common, the favorite manipulation tactics of people who use this and also understand that someone

who is covertly manipulating you or trying to, attempting to, they're trying to get their own needs met,

but in a way that is dysfunctional and in a way that is damaging to you.

So the whole cycle itself is dysfunctional.

I think we can all agree with that.

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