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Hi guys, well guess what? It's time, it's time for a little heart-to-heart

about rationalization. Yeah, I didn't think that was on the agenda for you today,

did ya? Well, that's what we're talking about, okay? Okay, good. Just so we're all

on the same page, let's start with defining or rationalization.

Rationalization is an attempt to explain or justify your own or someone else's

behavior or attitude with plausible reasons, even if these reasons are not

entirely logical or healthy. In dating and relationships, rationalization is

often used as a form of self-deception. You know when you consistently make

excuses for toxic and or destructive behavior? So basically, there's a lot of

sugarcoding going on. When you rationalize things to death, it's basically the

same as lying to yourself and misleading yourself. Because deep down, you know

when something isn't good. You know when something isn't sitting right with you.

You know when something's causing you extra anxiety and stress.

You also know when you aren't treating someone else with respect.

Otherwise, you would have no need to rationalize anything, right? You can't

rationalize something unless you are actually aware

that it's reality. It makes sense. It makes sense to me, so

I hope it makes sense to you. But yeah, you can't rationalize something

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