276. Greatest Hits Vol. 14 How to Know When Emotional Difficulty Is Worth It
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 9 February 2023
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Emotional growth doesn’t always feel great. But it doesn’t have to feel terrible, either. You get to choose whether or not you put the time and energy into changing a certain aspect of your life. The key is being able to recognize the difference between giving up on something because you think it’s too hard, and choosing to pursue something else that is more interesting and important to you. This week we’ll revisit a very important topic: How to know when emotional difficulty is worth it. I’ll teach you why the hardest things are not always the most worthwhile.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain |
| 0:16.3 | and get what you want in life. |
| 0:18.6 | And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach, |
| 0:24.7 | Kara Loyenthyle. |
| 0:28.0 | Hello, my chickens. |
| 0:29.9 | Today we are re-erring one of the most important podcast episodes I've ever done. |
| 0:37.1 | And I felt it was one of the most important when I created it and based on the download and listening numbers you all feel that way too. |
| 0:45.0 | So if you haven't heard this episode you obviously need to listen to it but even if you have I want you to listen to it again |
| 0:51.0 | because honestly this is a lesson that I still am learning and I'm |
| 0:56.1 | sure that I will continue learning. This episode is all about how to know when emotional difficulty is worth it. |
| 1:04.8 | One of the most common things that happens when we start doing thought work and we start taking |
| 1:09.0 | responsibility for our emotions is that we can basically take the tools and use them in a |
| 1:15.6 | perfectionistic way just like we do everything else. I see this sometimes leveled |
| 1:19.7 | as a sort of accusation at thought work itself or at coaching itself, but coaching is just a set of tools, right? |
| 1:28.5 | You can use a hammer to build a house or to hit yourself in the face. It's not the hammer's fault, right? It's not your fault in a blaming way either. |
| 1:37.0 | It's the point is just that it's a tool that can be used in different ways. |
| 1:41.0 | And that's the same with thought work. |
| 1:42.6 | So if we come into learning thought work and coaching |
| 1:46.0 | from a place where we are used to blaming and finding fault |
| 1:50.3 | with ourselves and punishing ourselves, |
| 1:52.2 | we will totally use thought work to do that and that's why so much of my work focuses on, you know, what I always say, like my, literally my main goal is just for you to be nicer to yourself and if we get that done I don't care what else happens. |
| 2:05.0 | So this episode is kind of all about how to know when emotional difficulty is worth it and how to kind of discern that because one of the things that happens is that we start |
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