This is the Terry Cole show and as you might have guessed I'm your host Terry Cole

For over two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist love and boundaries

expert and I'm also the founder of the Rail of Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp.

On this show I'll bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations from my time on the front lines in the

fascinating world of entertainment, empowerment, and mental health. Now let's get

going with today's episode. Well, hello and welcome to the Terry Cole show.

I am your host.

If you happen to be new to this crew, I'm a licensed psychotherapist, a relationship

expert and the founder of Real Love Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp, and I'm also the proud author of a book called Bounder Boss, the essential

guide to talk true, be seen, and finally live free. Welcome to the show. And hey, if you aren't already a subscriber why don't you just

subscribe right now to the podcast because you're clearly listening to it. In today's show I'm actually talking about the top

four relationship killers and how to avoid them or what to do instead.

And this is all inspired by the Gottman Institute,

John Gottman, who is a veritable love expert,

and actually he is a researcher on Love and the Love Lab, which is his research

lab, he's been doing this work for over four decades. So today I've also created for you a little downloadable cheat sheet

so just listen, enjoy, relax, learn something and then in the end of the episode you can just go to Terry Cole

dot com forward slash 271 and you can get your little easy breezy guide to

figure out what to do instead if you recognize yourself in any of these top

for most damaging behaviors in your own relationship.

So let's start with.

John Gottman calls these the four horseman.

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