Welcome to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience dating, love and relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach and attachment expert, Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody. and I'm really glad you're here. Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, I'm going to be offering five reasons why you might be attracted to

unavailable people.

So this is something that I hear all the time, that I see all the time in students,

and clients is this pattern of continually winding up in relationships or other connections

with people who are unavailable in some way, shape or form, who are unable to meet our needs,

who are unable or unwilling to show up in the way that we

truly desire. And yet, we find ourselves pushing and pursuing and, you know, continuing to linger

in these dynamics, even though they're sort of patently not working. So I'm hoping that in shedding light on some of the reasons why you might be

attracted to unavailable people, you can start to bring greater awareness and thereby

enliven the possibility of choice. As I always say, you know, awareness facilitates choice.

In the absence of awareness as to what's going on under the hood, we are

limited in our ability to choose something different. Before I dive into that, I just wanted to let

you know that I am holding another master class in a couple of weeks called Better Boundaries,

which is all about, wait for it, how to set better boundaries in your life.

So boundaries are one of those things.

You know, if you're familiar with my work, you know that it's sort of all roads lead back

to boundaries.

There are so many aspects of our lives that are adversely impacted by boundarylessness

or by poor boundaries.

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