269. The Power of Surrendering to Urges
Overcome Pornography for Good
Sara Brewer
4.9 • 730 Ratings
🗓️ 16 March 2026
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
Have you been trying to quit pornography by fighting it? Many people approach this process like a battle, trying to resist urges, push them away, or overpower them with discipline and willpower. But when you treat urges like an enemy you need to defeat, it actually makes the process harder.
Join me this week as I show you how surrendering to urges and the emotions beneath them can completely change the way you approach quitting porn. You will learn why willpower often backfires, how resisting emotions can make urges stronger, and why allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable emotions is a key step toward lasting freedom.
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| 0:00.0 | You are listening to the Overcome Pornography for Good Podcast, episode 269. |
| 0:06.0 | Welcome to the Overcome Pornography for Good podcast where we take a research-based, trauma-informed, and results-focused approach to quitting porn. |
| 0:16.7 | This approach has been revolutionary and changed thousands and thousands of lives. |
| 0:22.3 | I'm your host, Sarah Brewer. |
| 0:25.9 | Hey everyone, welcome to Overcome Pornography for Good. |
| 0:29.4 | In today's episode, I'm revisiting a topic that I believe will offer you so many insights, |
| 0:34.2 | some amazing takeaways, no matter where you are in your journey. I hope you find it as |
| 0:39.5 | impactful as when it first aired. It's always an amazing thing to revisit some of these topics |
| 0:44.7 | that we need to hear multiple times. Or if you haven't heard it before, I'm excited for you to hear this. |
| 0:49.8 | So welcome and let's dive in. Today I want to talk about surrendering and why surrendering is such an important, vital part of the process of overcoming pornography. |
| 1:06.4 | So listen, this is really different than how you've probably thought about quitting pornography before. |
| 1:11.7 | You've probably thought of it as a fight and a battle and we have to go and we have to fight this |
| 1:17.4 | demon. We have to go and fight this thing within us. No, that's not what we're going to do. |
| 1:22.5 | This is not a fight. This is not a battle. This story that you have in your mind that there is a demon that |
| 1:29.8 | you need to defeat here is just not true. And thinking of it as a fight and as a battle is going to |
| 1:37.5 | make it a lot harder to quit. And the truth is like when you get into what your urges are, |
| 1:42.5 | what they really are, is that they're not fighting you |
| 1:45.7 | and they're not dangerous. So if you remember our episode on Stop Fearing Urges, we talk about what |
| 1:51.2 | urges are and we really dive into that. But really what an urge is, is it's simply a feeling |
| 1:56.2 | of discomfort. It's simply a feeling of restlessness. And there is nothing to fight here. If you |
| 2:04.5 | notice that you're feeling an urge and you stop, you drop into your body, and you really get really |
| 2:09.2 | serious with what it is, really dive into that and just really kind of strip it down to its core, |
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