266. The NYT Tried to Give Us Dating Rules and We Have Notes ft. Darcy
Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast
Ali Jackson
3.9 • 712 Ratings
🗓️ 23 March 2026
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
Returning guest and Ali’s good friend Darcy is back on the pod, and they’re diving straight into the New York Times' crowdsourced list of 35 dating rules. Some of them? Genuinely solid. Some of them? Completely unhinged. And several of them directly contradict each other, which is so indicative of modern dating. Topics include how people treat servers, outsourcing your nervous system to a partner, paying on dates, the pacing of physical intimacy, whether you actually need to like someone's friends, and a $75 first-date filet mignon story.
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| 0:00.0 | I call it like the grandma rule. |
| 0:01.6 | Okay. |
| 0:02.2 | It is kind of where I go with when the girl wants to pay. |
| 0:06.0 | You know when, this for me, like when my grandma used to give me money, you can't just take the money. Be like, oh, thanks, thank, thank, thank, thank, thank. You got to say, no, no, no, grandma, I don't, no, I'm good. I'm good. Thank you though. No, no. |
| 0:16.3 | If grandma offers it to you again, no, no, grandma, I, I, I, I can't take your money, |
| 0:21.0 | you can't take your money. |
| 0:21.6 | You need, no, if she gives, offers it to you a. No, no, grandma. I can't take your money, grandma. |
| 0:21.0 | You need, no. |
| 0:22.3 | If she gives, offers it to you a third time, you say yes. |
| 0:36.2 | Hello and welcome to other episode of Finding Mr. Hyde the podcast. |
| 0:39.1 | I'm your host, Allie Jackson, and I'm here from the top with my friend Darcy. |
| 0:44.5 | Hey, everybody. |
| 0:45.4 | Hello, hello, returning guest, friend of the pod. |
| 0:47.6 | That's all I wanted to be called, is returning guest. |
| 0:50.0 | It is an achievement. |
| 0:51.5 | What is it now? |
| 0:52.6 | Like, I was episode 10, so, like, close to five years since. It'll an achievement. I, what is it now? Like, I was episode 10, so like close to five years since. It's been a minute. It's been a minute. And so, thank you, first of all, for doing this. Yeah. This, so I have a segment on the pod called MediaMention. Okay. And I usually do it in the update section. This whole episode is a media mention. |
| 1:12.0 | So I figured let's just dive right into it. |
| 1:14.8 | Love it. |
| 1:15.8 | Quick context. |
| 1:16.4 | So the New York Times recently published a crowd sourced list of 35 dating rules that they claim, |
| 1:23.5 | and I'm going to say that because we're going to talk about some interesting idiosyncrasies later, |
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