264. Honey Archive: How To Own Your Slut Era with Zachary Zane

Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 533 Ratings

🗓️ 29 April 2026

⏱️ 53 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

Zachary Zane aka “The Boyslut” joins us for one of our most freeing conversations yet. Zach is a sex expert, advice columnist, and author known for his honest, no-BS takes on sexuality, shame, and modern dating. We’re talking about what it actually means to embrace your sexuality without shame, how to define pleasure on your own terms, and why the word “slut” might not mean what you think it does. We cover: Redefining “slut” (and taking your power back). Why being a “slut” has nothing to do with numbers and everything to do with ownership, desire, and self-expression. Why shame is the biggest block to good sex. How internalized shame shapes your sex life more than your actual experiences, and how to start unlearning it. What it really means to explore your sexuality. Moving beyond performative sex into curiosity, experimentation, and figuring out what actually feels good for you. The pressure to be “good” in bed (and why it backfires). How trying to meet expectations kills connection and pleasure, and what to focus on instead. Communication that actually makes sex better. Why being honest about your wants, turn-ons, and boundaries is the key to more satisfying sex. Letting go of labels and rigid sexual identities. How loosening your grip on labels can create more freedom, flexibility, and fun in your sex life. Permission to want what you want. The core of this conversation: you’re allowed to desire, to explore, and to define your sex life on your own terms. Connect with Zach: Buy his book "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto" HERE! Visit his website HERE Learn more about 1:1 coaching HERE!⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	Hello, you're a gem shine when the light grows dim. See one, two, three, four, three, two, one. Because no one can do it like who we do it, like who we do it, like we do it, like we do it, like we do it. Because no one can do it like we do it, like we do it, like we do it. Like we do it. Hello and welcome back to Honeydumie Podcast. I'm Emma Norman. Stop doing my full name.
0:24.1	Stop it.
0:26.3	I didn't ask.
0:27.8	No one asked.
0:28.9	Nobody asked.
0:29.9	I don't know if anybody even cares our names.
0:31.5	They get us so mixed up all the time.
0:33.2	Like we could just be dumb and dumber at this point.
0:35.3	But I'm cast.
0:36.2	Poop and toots.
0:37.1	Poop and toots, as we
0:38.3	used to say in our wild era. Yeah, which goes hand in hand with today's topic. Which really does.
0:49.8	This is our podcast where we talk about sex, relationships, mental health, all the things that
0:53.4	we think should come a little bit more naturally than they seem to, at least if you're us.
0:58.0	It's all been a little bit more stressful than expected, and we've been a little bit worse at it than we anticipated.
1:06.4	Yeah.
1:07.6	But here we are, trying our best, learning from experts, and we love to occasionally dip into our little honey archive to revisit an episode that we think is valuable and pertinent. They all are. But right now, what could be more valuable and important than embracing your slut era?
1:23.2	Oh, my God. Talk about something I thought I'd be better at.
1:27.7	I knew I would never be good at being a slut.
1:30.1	I always hoped so desperately that I'd be good at being a slut.
1:34.3	And I've tried and I've dated and I've slept around.
1:38.0	And I am horrible at it.
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Cassandra Anderson, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Cassandra Anderson and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.