262. When You Don’t Feel Attracted Right Away (How Long To Wait)
Dating Intentionally
Talia Koren
4.7 • 596 Ratings
🗓️ 12 May 2026
⏱️ 45 minutes
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In this episode, I'm covering how attraction actually works when you're dating for a long-term relationship, from how to know if you're attracted to someone and what's "enough," to how long to give it before walking away, to how attraction can grow over time and what it actually takes for that to happen. I'm also answering a few listener questions, and at the end, I tackle a dating dilemma about a confusing Bumble interaction.
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| 0:00.0 | Have you ever gone out with someone that you really hit it off with, but you don't feel as |
| 0:09.8 | attracted to them as you'd hope? |
| 0:12.2 | This is such a common experience, and today we're going to get into what to look for when |
| 0:16.6 | it comes to attraction and early dating and how long to wait for it to show up. We'll also talk |
| 0:21.3 | about how to navigate it if you're just not feeling it with someone who you know could be an |
| 0:25.7 | amazing match for you. Welcome back to dating intentionally. I'm Talia. I'm sharing no nonsense |
| 0:30.1 | advice for navigating dating and relationships with confidence and ease, whether you've been dating |
| 0:34.7 | for a while or you're just starting out. I believe dating can be fun, |
| 0:37.9 | and I'm here to help you enjoy the process. Attraction is definitely one of the most fun parts of dating, |
| 0:43.8 | but it can be pretty confusing if you like them as a person. They show up consistently, and then, |
| 0:49.5 | you know, you have fun when you're together, but you're not sure if you're fully feeling attracted to them yet. |
| 0:55.5 | And this is something that I know a lot of people, you know, women and some men experience |
| 1:00.8 | in early dating, and I did too. I'm excited to address this question of, what do I do if I like |
| 1:06.7 | them, but I'm not attracted to them in this episode. But it comes up so much that it's also in my free |
| 1:12.7 | dating FAQ guide. You can get this guide in the show notes. It covers dozens and dozens of |
| 1:18.4 | different common dating scenarios and gives you quick answers so you know what to do in any |
| 1:22.6 | situation where you're like, this is confusing and I just don't get it. You can head to dating intentionallypod.com |
| 1:29.4 | slash gift to download this guide and all of my dating guides for free. That's dating |
| 1:34.3 | intentionally pod.com slash gift. It's also in the show notes. Okay, we have a lot to get into today. |
| 1:40.1 | And first we're going to talk about how important attraction is when you're looking for a long-term |
| 1:44.2 | relationship and potentially marriage, how to know you're attracted to someone and what is enough, |
| 1:50.5 | and we'll dive deep into how long to give it and what to do if it just isn't hitting for you. |
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