#259: How to Communicate with a Defensive Partner

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Stephanie Rigg

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 26 May 2026

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Does your partner get defensive easily, even when you feel like you weren't being attacking or critical? If so, today's episode is for you. Being on the receiving end of someone's chronic defensiveness can be extremely frustrating and disheartening, and it can feel like a real block to connection.

But the way we typically respond — by making someone wrong for their defensiveness — can entrench the very pattern we're hoping to shift.

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0:00.0	The internet is coaching our kids.
0:04.9	When boys hear that on repeat, it shapes how they see themselves.
0:08.4	We can't leave it to those voices.
0:10.3	We have to be louder.
0:11.6	Together with EE, we need to coach them, guide them, back them.
0:15.6	Building our boys up every chance we get.
0:18.0	Be yourself.
0:18.8	Back your mates.
0:19.9	Confidence comes from a vin.
0:21.2	Yes.
0:21.7	As proud partner of the England team's EEE has support and guidance to help build all our
0:26.4	voice up on and off the pitch.
0:28.3	Search E.E. Yes, boys.
0:30.3	Right, home from work.
0:31.9	Walk the dog.
0:33.2	Kids are back.
0:34.4	Mom.
0:35.1	Up the stairs for something.
0:37.9	Ugh. Back down. No idea what I went up for. Mom. Up the stairs for something. Back down.
0:39.3	No idea what I went up for.
0:42.0	Mom, what's for dinner?
0:43.7	Chop, sizzle, done.
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