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On Attachment

#258: When Your Partner Isn't Respecting Your Boundaries (Ask Steph)

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.91.2K Ratings

🗓️ 21 May 2026

⏱️ 11 minutes

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How do you navigate a situation where your partner isn't respecting the boundaries that you've set? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode.

Boundaries can be fraught for those of us with insecure attachment patterns, and it's easy to swing between demands and capitulation — neither of which are particularly helpful. We'll talk about how to reorient to what is within your control rather than making repeated pleas of someone else to change their behaviour to accommodate you, which is a recipe for frustration and resentment.

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In today's Ask Steff episode, I am answering the listener question of how do I get my partner to

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respect my boundaries? So, you know, for many of us who struggle with boundary setting,

0:38.9

this is such a sore point and it's really hard because I think we can learn about boundaries

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and we can practice the script and do the thing and pluck up the courage to have the conversation

0:50.0

and deliver the boundary. Maybe someone even agrees to it or acknowledges it and responds

0:55.7

thoughtfully but then maybe there's no follow-through and we then feel like we're fresh out

1:01.5

of options and we don't understand where things went wrong and that can put us right back

1:06.6

into that place of powerlessness and you know feeling like feeling like, well, I set the boundary and now

1:11.8

they're not doing it. So what do I do now other than stomp up and down and get angry with them

1:16.8

and have the same conversation again and again and again, you know, only to reinforce my point,

1:21.8

then feel disappointed, then feel frustrated and resentful and not know what my other options

1:26.7

are other than leaving the relationship,

1:29.2

which is, I think, the last resort that nobody wants to look at. And so we just return to the

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