Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's Ask Steff episode, I'm answering

the listener question of how do I find self-compassion when it feels like everything in my life

is falling apart? So first up, I'm sending so much love to the person who asked the question and

anyone else who feels like they're in a really

hard season. It's hard enough when one thing feels like it's falling to pieces, a relationship

or financially or work feels hard, friendships feel hard, maybe there's health stuff going on.

But when all of those things collide and it just

feels like you're in a bit of a disaster zone and you don't even know where to turn,

that's a lot to ask of your system. And it's really easy to just feel the sense of total defeat

and overwhelm and even hopelessness. So just know that if that's where you're at,

it makes sense that you would feel that way because that's what our system does when things

feel like too much to handle. We just kind of want to hide under the blankets and have someone

else deal with it because I don't think I have it in me. And this specific know, this specific piece around self-compassion sort of

implies that the person asking the question is responding to all of that stuff going on with

self-criticism or self-blame, self-flagellation, all of these other things that we can do by default,

if that's been part of our pattern, is to blame ourselves

when things go wrong and to assume that it's because, you know, we're broken or there's

something wrong with us for everything in our life to be falling to pieces. And I think that

we can't overstate the impact of social media on that because obviously

it feels almost trite to say it because it is something that's been said a million times.

But when we're so deep in comparison and we look at everyone else's lives that seem really shiny and everyone else is thriving and in a

happy relationship and having kids and all of the things.

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