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Black Girls Heal

#252: Don’t text them - Sit on Your Hands

Black Girls Heal

Shena Lashey

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 9 July 2024

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.


We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.


We also touch on the new 90-Day No Contact Support Group, offering 90-day support for those serious about cutting trauma bonds. Tune in to learn why you deserve fulfilling relationships and how to reclaim your power and joy.


In this episode, we cover…

  • 01:05 The importance of no contact
  • 05:04 The Sit on Your Hands Challenge
  • 05:28 Who this episode is for and not for
  • 16:34 How to recognize avoidant behavior
  • 21:58 How to start making decisions from a place of wholeness
  • 23:13 Implementing the Sit on Your Hands Challenge
  • 24:06 Handling communication during the challenge
  • 25:08 Ways to focus on yourself and other relationships
  • 28:58 How to respond to their messages
  • 32:42 Ways to engage in self-care and hobbies


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Transcript

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0:00.0

Hello, hello, and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girls Heel.

0:03.7

I hope that you are doing well, that you are feeling loved and supported wherever you are

0:08.7

and that you are choosing those who choose you and choose you fully not people who are just brought along for the

0:15.6

ride people who are there half-heartedly but people who treat you like the treasure that you are

0:20.4

and that you feel safe to respond in kind. So with that said, with that being the intro,

0:26.3

today we are talking about no contact. So I'm actually re sharing an episode that I shared. Oh my gosh, how long ago is this?

0:35.0

Maybe a year has some change ago now around the Don't Textum sit on your effing hands challenge that I gave y'all to go seven days without being in response

0:45.3

with the folks that you may be in an addictive or trauma bonded relationship with.

0:50.0

And I know that that was a fan favorite.

0:52.0

I don't know if that episode is still up and so I wanted to republish it in case it is not so that those

0:58.2

who I know have loved this episode can come back to it for encouragement and support and to also take this challenge.

1:04.8

I'm going to share more about this in the episode but I'm going to say the same thing

1:08.7

I tell you all all the time. You're going to hear it again in about five minutes, but you deserve to be in relationships that make you better and that you don't have confusion around and that you don't stay up late at night about and that you don't have deep anxiety around.

1:25.2

And there's a difference between relationships that help you grow, right?

1:28.4

That serve as reflections of things for you to work on and things are just

1:31.9

are heavy and they feel like work and they're retraumatizing.

1:35.6

And so if there are relationships around you that feel as if you're in this love addictive, love

1:40.4

avoidance cycle that you feel so overwhelmed by you've already done all the things

1:44.4

to try to explain to them what's going on you've tried just being their friend that is not

1:49.0

working out you've tried having boundaries and just pulling back and this is not just romantic relationships.

1:54.3

It's going to be friendships, it's going to be family.

1:56.4

I really encourage you to take advantage of the content in today's episode.

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