251: ENCORE: How Do I Parent a Young Adult (and Deal with My Own Parents)?

Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Dr. Lisa Damour/Reena Ninan

Mental Health, Parenting, Health & Fitness, Kids & Family

4.8 • 720 Ratings

🗓️ 23 December 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Your kid is technically an adult, but still looking for–or needing–parental guidance. And maybe you still have your own parents weighing in, too. Parenting through this “in-between” stage can be complicated: How much guidance is too much? When do you let go? How do you stay close without taking over? In this encore episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens and Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan welcome Dr. Laurence Steinberg to discuss his book “You and Your Adult Child: How to Grow Together in Challenging Times.” Together they discuss how parents can make sense of the shifting roles that come with launching young adults while also managing relationships with aging parents. It’s a heartfelt, insightful look at what it means to be part of the “sandwich generation” today. 💡 YOU’LL LEARN: - How to balance support and independence as your child becomes an adult- When (and how) to offer financial help without overstepping- What to do when you’re worried about your adult child’s choices- How to handle generational tensions with your own parents- Strategies for staying grounded while caring for both generations Originally released in 2023, this encore episode feels more relevant than ever. Learning to stay connected while letting go is a challenge that spans generations. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com Episode keywords: parenting young adults, adult kids boundaries, launching teens, empty nest Podcast keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

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0:00.0	Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.
0:06.6	Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.
0:12.7	I'm Rina Nainen and welcome to Ask Lisa the psychology of raising tweens and teens.
0:17.6	And I'm Dr. Lisa DeMore.
0:19.1	We bring you science-back strategies for managing anxiety, discipline, intense emotions, and more.
0:24.6	We decode tough parenting issues with tips you can use right now.
0:28.6	So subscribe to Ask Lisa the psychology of raising tweens and teens and join our YouTube community today.
0:35.6	Just Google, Ask Lisa podcast. We're here to help you
0:39.1	untangle family life. Encore episode 251, how do I parent a young adult and deal with my own
0:48.0	parents? We're revisiting an episode that feels especially relevant as we head into the holiday season,
0:59.6	navigating life with young adult children while managing relationships with your own parents.
1:04.7	If you've ever felt caught in the middle, this conversation with special guest, Dr. Lawrence Steinberg,
1:11.5	is packed with insight and practical guidance.
1:15.0	One thing I love about this podcast, Lisa, is we talk about things that don't normally come
1:20.6	up just casually in parenting. And one of these topics, crucially, hugely important,
1:26.9	is when you become a parent of an adult,
1:31.4	what is acceptable and what is not? The relationship changes, doesn't it? It does. It absolutely does.
1:37.2	And it's a huge part of being a member of a family is working across the generations, both
1:42.5	raising adult children and then being an adult
1:45.6	interacting with the parents that you have as they get to know your own kids. It's complicated,
1:51.6	as they say. And we've got the perfect guest, as always. Dr. Lawrence Steinberg is a leading
1:57.3	psychologist who's devoted his 45-year career to researching parent-child relationships.
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