Tell me a parenting issue everyone struggles with with tweens and teens, but no one talks about.

Rina, I think a lot of people feel like they just don't know how to connect to their kid anymore.

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Encore episode 252.

How do I talk with my teens about my own mental health challenges?

We're bringing back a conversation that's more important than ever,

how to talk with your teens about your own mental health challenges.

This episode offers guidance on being honest, modeling resilience,

and supporting your teen all while taking care of yourself.

We wish you the best this holiday season. Merry Christmas

and Happy New Year. So how are you doing? How about you? You know, I feel like I'm on this

hamster wheel. I never get off, but I keep telling myself, oh, it's just five more minutes and

you're going to get a nice long break and that break never comes. No. It really, the to-do list never ends, Rina. And I don't know how I have not figured this out yet. I keep thinking that somewhere, somewhere there is an end of the do-list. And I really am trying to be like I step in and out of it. I'm just not in it all the time, but I kind of feel like I'm in it all the time anyway. I wonder what studies say about this. We always think that we're going to be done and we're not done. Well, actually, it's funny you should mention that because there actually is one of my favorite research studies shows that like, of course you have a study on this. I have a favorite. Of course, it's a favorite. Like, I like live for these. We have a study that shows that like if you ask people about how busy they are now and how busy they'll be in the future, they reliably say, oh, I'm very, very busy now, but I won't be busy in six months. they think somehow out there is leisure.

And this is also how we do ourselves in because we agree to things in the future because we think, well, I'm busy now, but I won't be busy then. So yes, let's put it on the calendar. And that's how we end up with these over full calendars. Is this distorted belief that the future is somehow full of leisure and extra time. We've got to learn to say no. That's a hard thing. It's a very hard thing. I love this letter that came into our inbox about a parent who's dealing with their own history of mental health challenges. I want to get

right to it. Dear Dr. Lisa, I'm a mom of three teenagers. As most parents with children of this age,

my husband and I are having lots of conversations about mental health. I come from a family with

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