250. How To Become Shamelessly Sexy and Reconnect With Desire

Honeydew Me

Cassandra Anderson

Self-improvement, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.8 • 533 Ratings

🗓️ 21 January 2026

⏱️ 50 minutes

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Summary

Most of us were never actually taught how to understand our own sexuality. In this episode, we’re joined by Tash Doherty, author and sexuality advocate behind Misseducated, to talk about what it really means to become shamelessly sexy. We get into unlearning bad sex education, reconnecting with desire, and why curiosity, reflection, and self-knowledge are foundational to confidence and pleasure. We Cover: Why most of us are still “miseducated” about sex. Tash breaks down the gaps in traditional sex education and how they shape shame, confusion, and silence. How shame disconnects us from desire. Why feeling awkward, guilty, or “behind” is incredibly common and not a personal failure. What it actually means to be shamelessly sexy. Moving beyond performative confidence and into self-trust, curiosity, and ownership. The role of self-reflection in sexual confidence. Why understanding your own patterns, turn-ons, and boundaries changes everything. How journaling can transform your relationship with sex. Tash shares how intentional reflection helps women access desire, clarity, and agency. Why desire changes and how to work with it. Normalizing libido shifts and learning to stay connected to pleasure across life stages. How to build a healthier relationship with your body. Tools for getting out of comparison and back into embodied experience. Creating space for pleasure without pressure. Why slowing down and listening to yourself is more effective than “trying harder.” What women actually need more of in sex education. And why access to better tools leads to better relationships, communication, and confidence. Connect With Tash: Misseducated The Intimacy Journal These Perfectly Careless Things Website Connect with Us: ⁠⁠Looking to apply these tips to your REAL life? Schedule a FREE 1:1 strategy session with Cass & Em to see if coaching can support you.⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Honeydew Me Merch HERE!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Patreon and access exclusive content HERE! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello, you're a gem shine when the light grows dim.
0:04.3	See one, two, three, four, three, two, one.
0:08.0	Because no one can do it like we do it, like who we do it, like we do it, like we do it, like we do it, like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Like we do it. Hello and welcome to Honey Do Me podcast. I'm Emma. And I'm Cass and this is our podcast where we talk about sex,
0:24.1	relationships, mental health. Hello and welcome to HoneyDumee Podcast. I'm Emma. And I'm Cass and this is our podcast where we talk about sex,
0:24.1	relationships, mental health, all of the things that feel a little bit messier than we expected.
0:28.0	And we are here not to help you clean up that mess, but to help you sit in it not feel so embarrassed,
0:32.4	not feel so alone, because we're all sitting in one big mess.
0:36.9	One big pile.
0:38.9	I keep wanting to say dooky because I was at a friend dinner last night and one of my friends,
0:45.7	she just says dukey so much, like instead of shit, she'll just say dukey.
0:49.9	It's hilarious and I just can't make it sound as good as she does.
0:53.1	But she is more poetic than me.
0:55.5	What can I say?
0:56.9	Oh, the foreshadowing.
0:59.5	Foreshadowing, which is another poetry term.
1:02.7	If you're familiar.
1:04.1	Many author use.
1:05.9	And I'm sure our guest, who is also an author, would use it as well.
1:10.0	We are talking to Tosh today. She is an
1:13.6	author and sexuality advocate behind Miseducated. And we went into this episode with this very
1:20.7	typical honey do me framework wanting to approach the topic of like, how do I feel sexy? Tell me how I'm sexy.
1:28.6	How do I embody it?
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