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The topic of today's episode is How to deal with your anger after a breakup, separation, or divorce.

I felt that this topic was really important because pretty much everyone will go through some level of anger after a breakup

and I often find that it's not necessarily immediate.

You may feel more sad when you first break up, but then after distancing yourself from the relationship for a while, it can be a lot easier

to see things for what they really were, which then starts to evoke feelings of anger.

Regardless of when and why you feel anger though, it's so important to let go of it from both a mental and

physical aspect because it's just not healthy to carry it around. Even though we may be angry at someone else, we are the ones who are suffering because of it, not them.

The sooner we can let go of it, the better off we will be.

Easier said than done in a lot of cases I know but it's

really important to do whatever you can to get past it so let's start with number

one face your anger head on. Don't deny that it exists.

While this may seem obvious, many people tend to gloss over their anger because if you're facing your anger you're also facing

the fact that you've broken up or in the process of separating or divorcing and

that can be quite scary. It can feel like oh gosh I'm really going through this and I have no option but to go through it.

So addressing the fact that you're angry about what has happened in your relationship, which led to the split, is actually a positive step in the right direction.

Because if we ignore these feelings too long, we can end up getting really depressed

and the anger can end up erupting like a volcano where you may feel like you've lost all control and don't know just exactly how to get back on solid ground again.

So I have an exercise for you that's really important. I want you to get a piece of paper and I want you to ask yourself this question.

What am I really angry about? Okay, what am I really angry about? And this isn't something to rush. Get out all the details.

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